The best advice I know of in this situation is, if you want to change someone else, change yourself. People change because they’re inspired by someone else’s example, not because they were coerced into doing it. People change because they see in someone else what’s Probable, not because someone harasses them over and over about what’s Possible. You will never change someone else unless you find the courage and the will and the resolve to change Yourself.
We’ve all said it at one time or another (either out loud or in our head). “I just wish my partner would change or do XYZ.” I bet you can think of one thing right now that you’d love for your partner to change or do.
Here’s the thing: You cannot change anyone else. Period.
I know that might sound odd coming from us here at Half Better where we’re all about making small improvements together, but here’s the thing: personal development is just that. Personal. No one else can do it for you. No one else can make you do it. You have to want it. All by yourself.
But wait - there’s hope. While you can’t change someone else, you can influence them.
We are not counselors or licensed therapists. We are just two people who are really interested in personal development, couples goals setting, and being productive so that we can be present together. We have experience within a partnership where we have both seen the benefits of personal growth and growing together. We have experience with trying to make someone change and that backfiring, and today on the podcast we’re going to talk about all of it!
We’ll lay out 4 ways to influence your partner towards growth and to encourage them to be supportive of your own growth. While everyone has the ability to change, it does not mean everyone will choose to change. A person has to want it all on their own to actually do the work required to change. So we’re going to talk today about how to tip the scales in favor of encouraging growth in your partnership.
What ways have you found helpful to encourage or support growth in your partner?
- Family HQ — Half Better
- Mel Robbins | Speaker, CNN Contributor, Creator: 5 Second Rule
- What to do when your partner is unsupportive | Mel Robbins - YouTube
- You're Growing, but the People in Your Life Are Not. Here's What to Do.
- Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones - Kindle edition by James Clear. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.